Back in the New Year, I told you to “Get selfish - to guarantee your best year ever!”
And one of my five proven tips was to FEED YOUR SOUL!
I can only speak from my experience. Which is, that over the past five years I have worked out how to integrate a sense of peace and acceptance into my daily life.
It’s taken a while, but my own version of spiritual practice has changed who I am.
Do I meditate daily? Hell no!
I don't meditate every day, like they seem to think you should. And while this is the recommended practice the truth is that while I get benefits from sitting on my cushion every day, I’ve stopped doing it.
Instead, what I’ve done is create moments of mindfulness throughout the day. And I’ve got good enough at that now I can drop into a mindful state anytime, anywhere, without much effort.
Although I do turn to meditation proper when I’m feeling anxious or can’t sleep. That’s when I’ll either meditate while focusing on my breath, or I listen to a meditation podcast. It’s likely that I’ll return to a daily(-ish) practice or attending retreats again in the future, for now I’m happy with how things are going.
Curious about what’s made the biggest difference?
Following spiritual teachers, and learning to meditate, taught me how to observe my thoughts - and then what to do about them. Now it’s much easier to accept them, stop them or change them.
When did this start? Weirdly, I can’t remember when I started to become aware of my thoughts. I don’t remember the light going on, but once it happened there was no going back. I love this new paradigm.
The truth is stuff don’t bother me as much! I’m more perceptive. I’m less likely to get wound up. I’m calmer. I don’t pass judgement so easily. And I can let things go, or let them be - whatever is needed at the time.
(Have you noticed there’s a difference from letting go’, to letting be’?)
I still care intensely about issues, like fairness and equity. But I’m not going to get upset when something happens to me, that I can’t, or don’t need to change.
I choose not to spend a heap of negative energy on these events.
I could say I’ve got much better things to do with my energy, but truthfully it’s not even that. There are things that are just not important. They don’t need my judgement. I don’t need to freaking respond at ALL!
What’s got me to where I am today?
Lots of things. But it’s also down to the books and podcasts I’ve listed below. Please check them out. Applying some of this wisdom means your life will never be the same again. I promise!
My favourites: Here are the books and podcasts that sustain my soul
by Michael Singer
What would it be like to free yourself from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to discover inner peace and serenity?
The Untethered Soul—now a #1 New York Times bestseller—offers simple yet profound answers to these questions
by Joseph Murphy
by Chogyam Trungpa
Chögyam Trungpa describes "crazy wisdom" as an innocent state of mind that has the quality of early morning—fresh, sparkling, and completely awake. This fascinating book examines the life of Padmasambhava—the revered Indian teacher who brought Buddhism to Tibet—to illustrate the principle of crazy wisdom.
by Elizabeth Gilbert
by Jack Canfield
by Pema Chodron
by Pema Chodron
by Dan Harris
by Mark Manson
by Arianna Huffington
Arianna Huffington, (co-founder and editor-in-chief of the Huffington Post), talks candidly about her own challenges with managing time and prioritising the demands of a career and two daughters. She draws on groundbreaking research to show the profound and transformative effects of meditation, mindfulness, unplugging and giving.
by Thich Nhat Hanh
13. White Hot Truth
by Danielle LaPorte
Has your self-help become self-criticism? White Hot Truth is a wise and often (hilariously) relatable exploration of the conflicts between spiritual aspiration and our compulsion to improve, from Oprah SuperSoul 100 member, Danielle LaPorte.
Dan Harris is a high profile newsman who had a panic attack LIVE on Good Morning America, which led him to something he always thought was ridiculous: meditation. He wrote the bestselling book, 10% Happier, started an app — “10% Happier: Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics”. In his podcast, Dan talks with a huge range of people who are meditators, including some of the most unlikely.
Srini Rao has interviewed more than 500 people for this podcast. Over that time he has developed superb skills in getting people to talk.
In all these interviews his final question is always “What do you think makes people unmistakable?” It’s worth listening right to the end just to hear the answers.
Brooke Castillo is an extremely wise, funny and successful business woman and Master Life Coach. “What Brooke teaches can help you make sense of yourself, your life and the world. She shows you how you can use her Self Coaching model to sort out any challenge or problem you’re having.” (Review) My favourite episodes include Superthinking and What Do You Want To Believe?
What do you read, or listen to, that feeds your soul?
Please leave a comment so we can learn from each other.